Your Ego Is Just a Toddler Throwing a Tantrum
11.13 Weekly Drop ✨
Here’s what you’ll find in today’s mix of magic + musings: Energetic: ⚡️ Color of the Day, 🌕 Update + 🪄 an alchemizing spell. Followed by 💁♀️ thoughts from me, Christina, 🔮 Oracle Insights from the heavens, & 💕 things I’m loving right now.
⚡️ Energetic Color of the Day:
Each day carries its own frequency + colors act like amplifiers for that energy. Wearing, carrying, or surrounding yourself with the day’s color helps you align more fully with its energy. Think of it as dressing in sync with the Universe!
Week of Nov 13th* Energy Update:
🌝 I don’t know about you, but yesterday, Mercury Retrograde GOT ME. I was avoidant during a good portion of the afternoon, spending time on things that didn’t matter, then getting caught in a loop of technical glitches on various platforms. Just as the astrologers predicted, I had to redo and fix various issues for a majority of the day, which was super fun.
I hope everyone’s surviving, because next week we’re supposed to finalize our inner clean up (from this retrograde) and prepare for the next big adventure. If you haven’t already, make sure you strengthen your emotional foundation. It will serve you to go into this next chapter with a clear vision.
Also, we’re in a year nine (2+0+2+5 = 9) AND it’s the year of the snake. Nine signify ending and the snake, wisdom and transformation. Anything in your life that’s not working (from relationships, to physical things, system and processes, literally anything), probablyyy won’t make it into 2026. But it’s good a thing. We must shed old skin to make room for something new, something better. For expansion and possibility.
🐍 “A Snake in the grass knows more than a hundred owls in the air.” So be like the snake. Slow down, be strategic, trust your intuition.
💫This is your time to finalize that emotional detox and honor the inner work. Do what makes you feel anchored and protect the powerful energy you’re cultivating. Remember we’re all going through a profound rebirth, so be kind to yourself as you navigate these waters.
*you may have noticed I switched things up a bit this week. Moving forward I’ll be giving updates from Thursday - Wednesday.
🪄 Alchemize the Energy: Peppermint Healing Powder
I love this spell by Ally Sands, as found in her Plant Magic book1.
Use this healing powder to rub on your candles, to anoint yourself, to sprinkle over other spell work, or to do healing for other people. Every herb used in this powder is for Healing, but each one has a specific purpose. Some for soothing your mind, some for energetic healing, and some for physical pain. It can even be mixed with a little oil in a pinch if you run out of other magic oils.
Ingredients:
peppermint, lavender, sage, or rosemary incense
6g each of dried sage, eucalyptus, lavender, pink rose petals, angelica, rosemary, + peppermint
mortar + pestle
1 white candle
small jar with a lid
optional: fluoride + clear quartz crystals
The Ritual:
Light your incense. Place each herb in your mortar. Tell the herbs how you want them to work for you. Focus on your intention for this powder. Grind the herbs one by one and add them to your bowl. When all herbs are powdered, mix them together in a bowl.
To cleanse your jar, pass it through the smoke of your incense. Fill the inside of the jar with smoke and let it flow out naturally. Pour the powder mixture into the jar. Add in your two crystals, if you're using them. Cap the jar.
Melt your candle to the lid of your jar. Light the candle and let it burn down. Your powder is now ready to use!
🌿 Curious what the herbs are for? Here’s a little guide from the2:
Sage - Protection, wisdom, immortality, longevity, wishes
Eucalyptus - Healing, purification, protection
Lavender - Love, protection, sleep, longevity, purification, peace, happiness
Pink Rose Petals - Love, psychic powers, healing, love divination, luck, protection
Angelica - Strong protection, warding, strength, healing
Rosemary - Protection, love, lust, mental powers, exorcism, purification, healing, sleep, youth
Peppermint - Purification, sleep, love, healing, psychic powers
💁♀️ Personal Update:
I loveeee talking about people and relationships. Other than healing, it’s the one thing I could talk about until I’m blue in the face. My best friend Kristin and I bonded over this, our love for analyzing people—constantly fascinated by behaviors, reactions, inactions, thoughts, beliefs, all of it. Then, add in the dynamic of a relationship, and the floodgates were open. We couldn’t stop talking.
I used to pick Kristin up before school, spend the day with her, drop her off, then immediately get on the phone so we could talk until bed. The topic: relationships. We weren’t beholden by a certain type of relationship either. Any and every relationship was on the table. And after we’d finish talking about it, we’d talk about it some more.
re·la·tion·ship | /rəˈlāSHənˌSHip/ | noun
the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.
As an adult it’s no surprise that I still have this ongoing love affair with people. We’re such complex creatures all with vastly different life experiences, which inevitably shape our viewpoints. Even two seemingly identical people will still never be the same. For me, this is where spirituality, philosophy, and anthropology converge.
We are all one, interconnected through consciousness and our own Source connection. This is why we say we know what it feels like to experience every facet of life, because we’re all connected through God - the Divine - the all encompassing energy.
con·scious·ness | /ˈkänSHəsnəs/ | noun
the state of being awake and aware of one’s surroundings.
We live in a illusion of perceived separation that has been created by our individual human experiences. And thanks to the ego, we blindly glide through life often forgetting there’s any connection at all.
e·go | /ˈēɡō/ | noun
a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
But if the concept is true, and we do live in a simulation with the possibility of parallel lives, that means our higher consciousness is living out an aspect of every possible life scenario at the same time. Which means we then possess an inner knowing of each of these infinite possibilities at all times.
🤯 It’s okay if your head just exploded.
The idea of conceiving every single experiences and scenario is almost too much to handle. But I have a feeling we were designed that way, with temporary amnesia, if you will. I personally don’t think my little powerful brain could handle the vastness of that information on a regular basis.
And furthermore, if we know what it’s like to live out every scenario, then why do we project so much of ourselves onto other people? I often wonder, how the ego has so much power. It’s something we can’t see, but we can feel. It doesn’t appear in a physical exam, yet we know we all have one. AND apparently we all experience it a little different.
Egos often remind me of toddlers who have missed their naps — they’re illogical, irritable, and trying to call all the shots—which often results in a tantrum. Trying to convince us of things and rationalize behaviors. Keeping us ever so detached from reality and oneness. The power behind the ego is truly unmatched.
Toddler: irritable + tired = Ego: internally anxious + critical, externally judgemental + defensive.
Toddler: makes illogical demands = Ego: insists it’s own way is the best way, often through the lens of black + white thinking, + rejecting reality
Toddler: wants everything. Mine! = Ego: constant need for possessions + status, further reinforcing the illusion of separation. Look at meeeee!
Toddler: tantrums = Ego: emotional overreaction, ya know FEAR, anxiety, unworthiness, all that fun stuff that arises when identity is challenged or desires are unmet.
Toddler: trying to call all shots = Ego: insists on being the one in charge, resisting surrender or even silence.
The ego’s identity is often so fragile it stops us from enjoying life or forgiving the people we love. It justifies our bad behaviors and criticizes others for theirs. It’s… kind of an asshole.
BUT ☝️ that’s only if you give it all your power. The ego, while still an asshole, is merely trying to protect us. It’s created all these “rules” as means for keeping us safe from suspected danger. Just because it’s calling, doesn’t mean you need to always answer the phone. Maybe it’s time to turn your read receipts on and leave the ego on read.
It’s my belief that one of the great life lessons here on Earth, is moving into a state of observation. Observing the ego and its rationale, without taking action. Getting to the root of its demands and understanding where these beliefs have stemmed from. The true power then shifts from the ego, to consciousness that’s able to recognize the ego for what it actually is… a toddler.
🔮 Oracle Insights:
What your soul wants you to know:
The challenge for every soul is to be in the world but not of it—to remember you’re a soul having a human experience and allow that soul to fully inhabit your body. Some people lean toward transcendence, longing for the heavens and the divine. Others lean toward immanence, attaching more to the physical world. True embodiment is the balance between both—grounded on Earth while connected to the stars.
Many souls naturally prefer transcendence and find earthly life challenging. If this is you, remember: you chose to be here. You’re being called to embrace your human experience, to root your soul in your body, and discover the beauty this physical world has to offer.
The action you’re being guided to take:
This is a shadow card, here to reveal what blocks you from letting love in. Mars reminds us to soften, forgive, and return to love. The human experience can make it hard to stay open to love. We all carry wounds that cause pain, fear, and separation. If we’re not careful, we begin to see the world as unsafe.
This card appears for two reasons: to help you acknowledge the emotions, wounds, and fears causing your pain, and to guide you back to love. When you’re hurt, it’s natural to close your heart and hide from the world. Do it anyway—soften, forgive, and open your heart. We’re all innocent souls finding our way through life. Choose to see that innocence in others and in yourself.
💕 What I’m loving right now:
Tongue Scraper: Living Well Copper Tongue Scraper
Book: Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey
“You are not a human being in search of a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being immersed in a human experience.“ - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin. 🤍
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Ally Sands, *Plant Magic for the Beginner Witch* (Pagan Street Publishing Company, 2020).
Scott Cunningham, *Cunningham’s Encyclopedia of Magical Herbs* (Llewellyn Publications, 1985).