Spiritually Setting My Ex on Fire for Self Care

1.15 Weekly Drop ✨

Jan 15, 2026

In today’s mix of magic + musings: Upcoming ⚡️ Energy Update + 🪄 a spell to help alchemize. Followed by 🫶 Client Corner, 💁‍♀️ Story Time from me, 🔮 Oracle Insights from the heavens, 💕things I’m loving right now.

“To help with circumstances. I create opportunities.” – Bruce Lee 🤍

⚡️ Week of Jan 15th Energy Update:

🌝 There’s a new Moon at the last degree in Capricorn on Jan 18, which makes this the last chance to energetically ‘clean house’ before we start a new cycle. Because it’s in Capricorn the energy is grounded and focused on REAL long-term goals and commitments.

It’s time to get real with yourself and ask, “What needs to die so something stronger can be built?” There’s no better time than now to get brutally honest about what is/isn’t working in the structures of your life.

🪐 Monday, Jan 20th Saturn — the planet of structure, discipline, and tradition — forms a 60° angle (sextile) with Uranus — the planet of revolution, innovation, and rebellion — in Taurus. Because of the sextile, these opposing energies come together synergistically creating practical innovation. It’s also the final pass of this aspect, which really gives a lot of finality behind it.

The energy is pushing you into a breakup from old patterns that no longer serve you. If there was ever a time to build something stable, it’s now.

💫 This week feels more like the start of a new year, than Jan 1st did. Think of this as your true reset button. It’s the perfect time to stop planning and start building. Not from where you were or where you want to be, but from where you are right now.

🪄 Alchemize the Energy: New Moon Alignment Visualization

Sit down in a quiet place and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself, then allow your breath to return to normal once you feel calm. Keeping your eyes closed, imagine a wavy horizontal stream of light emanating from your third eye. This is your vibration sending a call out to your desires.

Imagine another similar stream of light just above your head. Watch as the second stream above your head moves slowly towards the stream at your third eye. They may appear to move at different speeds at first, but as they grow closer they slowly begin to move in the same speed and shape, getting closer until they combine to form one energetic wave just in front of your third eye.

Feel the vibration of your energy and the energy of your desires, matching their frequency and coming into alignment with each other. Stay there for several moments. When you’re ready, thank your desires for coming into alignment with your vibration and open your eyes.1

Kick up the alchemy by incorporating some of your favorite oils, crystals, or plants. Rub essential oils on your wrists, then sit with palms facing up, so the scent continues to waft up to your nostrils during meditation. Hold onto complementary crystals, tuck them in your bra, or lay them on your lap.

🫶 Client Corner

Messages like this 🥹 are the driving force behind my business:

“Thanks for your message AND YOUR HEALING! I just downloaded it and will continue to revisit it. Since the session I TRULY have felt phenomenal. I can't thank you enough. It emptied some deep things and made SO MUCH room. And girllllll! The energy has been high and things are really positive in my life right now.”

💁‍♀️ Story Time:

I found a photo of an ex-boyfriend with one of my best girlfriends. They’re both smiling, wearing matching robes, and holding up peace signs while on vacation. I used to keep it in the bathroom, and at some point post breakup I tucked the photo into my grandmother’s old telephone desk to hide the memory of a person I’d rather forget. That was until Monday, when I went to record a healing.

You see, I’ve turned my guest bedroom into a studio and my grandmother’s desk into my official mixing station. [hair flip] I guess that means you can call me an artist AND a producer now (can listen to my growing catalog HERE or on Spotify). Guess that means I get to add that to my list of skills and talents!

This may contain: a woman sitting in front of a mixing desk with sound equipment on top of it — This is how I feel when I’m mixing + recording ;)

While looking at the photo of the man I once loved so much, I was instantly flooded with emotions. The painful heartache I felt after we split. The anger I held onto even long after I’d told him I was finally done. The deep sense of remorse that coursed through my veins for allowing the mental abuse and coercive control to go on far longer than it should have. Most of all, I felt the irreparable culpability of my own silence — of choosing to stay, and the heavy toll it ultimately took on all my other relationships.

I’m still trying to forgive myself for who I was during that time and everything I let happen, but forgiveness is hard. It’s been a major theme and lesson in my life, aggressively popping up every 15 years, humbling the shit out of me.

for·give | /fərˈɡiv/ | verb
stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

Forgiveness is an emotion that really humanizes us — forcing us to look outside ourselves and our own bullshit, to hold up a mirror and face parts and aspects of ourselves we’d rather not address. It’s a reflection of our choices, thoughts, and actions. With it, we become free of circumstance, but without it, we hold onto unnecessary emotions, which eventually, if not dealt with, wreak havoc on our physical bodies manifesting as disease or illness.

As much as I hate him. I hate who I was at that time more. As much as I want to blame him for everything that went on, it’s myself I’m most upset with. I take full responsibility for my life and my actions. I refuse to live life as a victim, because I’ve already been down that road one too many times.

vic·tim | /ˈviktəm/ | noun
a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action.
a person who is tricked or duped.
a living creature killed as a religious sacrifice.

So I did what any good witch would do. I cut my girlfriend out and set that mf on fire. Releasing any emotional attachment I still had to him or our toxic entanglement. Vowing to never entertain a relationship, romantic or otherwise, that doesn’t support my highest good. And bitch, let me tell youuuu, it felt GOOD.

2026 is the year I fully take my power back! Not just in past relationships, but in all areas of my life. 2025 was the year I found my worth, which makes this the year I use my voice to stand strong in my convictions.

Never again will I let someone suppress or keep me small. Never again will I validate someone else’s insecurities by compromising my own wants and needs. Never again will I let a fragile, posturing, wretched man dull my sparkle.

And to think, I almost forgot I’m a force to be reckoned with.

Starseed Oracle – Card #1. Soul whisperer: What your soul wants you to know. Card #2. Grounded Action: The Action your soul is guiding you to take.

What your soul wants you to know: The Void

The Void is the space where everything and nothing exist—the womb of creation where all life begins and ends. It’s the fertile darkness that holds both comfort and fear, where faith is born. This card invites you to surrender to the unknown, to rest in the mystery, and to trust what’s unfolding beneath the surface even if you can’t yet see it. The Void marks the end of one phase and the quiet weaving of what comes next, reminding you that true growth happens in stillness, when you release control and allow life to reshape itself through you.

The action you’re being guided to take: A New Earth

Don’t give up, you’re closer than you think. Even when everything feels like it’s falling apart, this is your sign you’re on the right path. You have the gift of seeing what’s possible before it exists, so keep tending your dreams and planting new seeds. Creating change takes trust and vision, and you chose to be here for this shift. Stay devoted and don’t waver, because what you’ve been working toward is almost here. Keep going. It’s happening