Perfectionism: The Family Heirloom Nobody Asked For

07.16 Weekly Drop ✨

Jul 16, 2026

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In today’s mix of magic + musings: Upcoming ⚡️ Energy Update + 🪄 a spell to help alchemize. Followed by 🫶 Client Corner, 💁‍♀️ Story Time from me, 🔮 Oracle Insights from the heavens, 💕 things I’m loving right now.

⚡️ Week of July 16 Energy Update:

🦋 Uranus Trine Pluto Retrograde on July 17th

A rare, super supportive alignment between Uranus, the planet of sudden breakthroughs, and Pluto, the planet of deep transformation. Because Pluto’s in retrograde, we’re able to identify old fears that have been holding us back, so we can finally break free of them.

The energy is fully supporting you to embrace transformation!

🧺 Barbault’s Basket Peaks at 4° on July 20th

Seen as one of the most significant, powerhouse moments of the year. Jupiter, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto align and create a rare geometric shape in the sky called Barbault’s Basket at the 4°. When combined their energy rewards us with deep reflection and emotional support.

Your spiritual expansion and creative inspiration will be amplified. Giving you the support to confront anything that’s been controlling you.

🦁 Sun Enters Leo + Leo Season Begins on July 22

We’re moving into Leo season, which is the perfect time for you to step into the spotlight! This energy supports your creativity, confidence, and leadership (as long as it’s heart led).

🪄 Alchemize the Energy: Litha Spell of Solar Strength ☀️

Ignite your inner fire, to help you step into your personal power!

You’ll need:

A bay leaf, gold or yellow pen/marker, bowl of water, mirror, + a gold or yellow candle

Ritual:

Put some hertz music on and take a moment to settle into your heart. Light your candle and face the sun. Take your bay leaf write a word that represents a strength you want to embody.

i.e. Bravery, Audacity, Conviction, Boldness, Certainty, Brilliance

Look in the mirror and hold your own gaze, without judgement, and hold the leaf to your heart and say:

“Sun above + fire below, grant me the strength to rise + glow. Let fear fall off, let doubt grown dim, my inner light outshines the grim.”

Then drop the leaf into the water and image your power rippling outward, expanding into the far reaches of the Universe. Complete the spell by pouring the leaf and water into the soil of a healthy plant (indoor or outdoor) to ground the magic.1

🫶 Overheard in Session

Being a human is incredibly hard sometimes, especially when you haven’t been taught how to properly process your emotions. Instead of offering yourself grace, many fall into the trap of harsh self-judgment, internalizing blame for the inability to always know or do 'the right thing’.

I want to help free you from this limiting beliefs!

You cannot blame yourself for what you didn't know, or for patterns deeply ingrained in your psyche. It’s not your fault. As long as you carry this shame, you block yourself from achieving your potential because it keeps you trapped in cycles of negative behavior.

Shifting doesn’t happen overnight, which is why I always stress the importance of being kind to yourself. Treat yourself like a puppy or better yet, imagine yourself as a child and give yourself the unconditional love you deserve!

This game of life is about YOU. So how are YOU going to show up for YOU?! Because YOU DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BEST!

“The people who need therapy don’t go. Their victims do.” 🤍

💁‍♀️ Story Time:

Making the decision to heal has never been an easy one. It takes true bravery and courage to face your demons and hold a mirror up to yourself. Especially if you grew up in an over critical household, where you’ve been taught to focus of your shortcomings, while simultaneously striving for perfection.

Perfectionism will ruin your relationship with yourself and block you from your brilliance meme

What is perfection? Well, for starters, it’s an unachievable standard. One that not ONE PERSON on this Earth can or ever will achieve. So why has it become the standard many of us hold ourselves to? Why do we constantly agonize over our less than perfect bodies, personas, achievements, or relationships. And why do we put so much unnecessary pressure on ourselves all the time?

perfection | /pərˈfekSHən/ | noun
The state, quality, or condition of being flawless, complete, or supreme. It represents the highest possible degree of excellence, proficiency, or skill, where nothing more can be added or improved to meet a specific goal.

My whole life I felt like I wasn’t smart enough, thin enough, funny enough, rich enough, pretty enough… you get the idea. I lived in a constant cycle of scrutinizing my imperfections and putting myself down. I couldn’t understand why I was so unlovable. Blind to how my own hatred, radiated out of me, repelling the things I wanted most—to be loved and accepted.

Zooming out now, it makes so much sense. Who would want to love me if I didn’t love and respect myself. But the fucked up thing is that I didn’t know I could! I didn’t know I had the power within me to change my mindset and show myself compassion, mostly because none of the women who raised me had ever shown it to themselves. It breaks my heart.

My grandmother would always pick on my mom. Not out of spite, but because I think it’s all she knew. In a weird, twisted way that’s how she showed her love. She was a sweet, generous, simple woman who lacked depth and a certain level of compassion, because she lived a life of survival.

A photo of my beautiful grandma marge taken in oak park, il around the 1940s — My beautiful Grandma Marge

From what I’ve been told, her mother, my Noni, was tough women. She choose to take the long arduous trip to America, via cargo ship through Ellis Island and move to America in the 1920s, without really knowing anyone. We suspect she got knocked up by a man in the military and had to flee Italy, temporarily moving to Austria, due to the shame it brought onto the family. She had to build a life with a small child in a foreign country, without knowing the language or having any support financially, emotionally, or physically.

Today’s my Grandma Marge’s birthday and while I love her deeply, I can’t help but reflect on how critical she was of my mom. Constantly picking her apart and pointing out her imperfections. I remember one specific incident where she was coming down on my mom: “when’s the last time cleaned the curtains.” As if the cleanliness of the curtains really matters. But to her, it did. She had to work hard for everything she had in life, which is where I think our family pride stems from.

I’m sharing all of this, to hopefully give you perspective. You’ll never truly know someone else’s life experience, unless you’ve lived it. You are the way you are, as a result of how you were raised. The same goes for your parents and their parents before them. Throw in circumstances outside your control, societal norms, and deep seated insecurities and you have the perfect storm for judgement.

It’s so easy to point a finger at the flaws of someone else, but it takes true strength to take a step back and find compassion—not only for the people in our lives, but for ourselves.

If this resonated with you, tap the ❤️ down below so more people can find this message. And share in the comments, what cycle are you ready to break?

🔮 Oracle Insights:

Star seated Oracle deck by Rebecca Campbell and Danielle Noel with the you've got the love and called cards Starseed

The cosmos has drawn you a mirror and a doorway. The love you’ve been pouring into others — giving more than you receive, losing your edges in relationships that feel familiar at a soul level — was never meant to leave you empty. You truly do have the love, all on your own. And the energy you reclaim when you establish healthier boundaries is the very energy your soul needs now, because you are being called. If you’re wondering Who am I to do that?, know that the boundary work and the calling are one movement: come home to yourself first, then leap. You’ve been training for this for lifetimes, and this moment is destined.