Nobody Who Says "I'm Fine" Is Fine
03.12 Weekly Drop ✨
In today’s mix of magic + musings: Upcoming ⚡️ Energy Update + 🪄 a spell to help alchemize. Followed by 🫶 Client Corner, 💁♀️ Story Time from me, 🔮 Oracle Insights from the heavens, 💕things I’m loving right now.
⚡️ Week of March 12th Energy Update:
💃 Tomorrow’s Friday the 13thhhhh
Friday is ruled by Venus, the planet of love, beauty, money, pleasure, and 13 represents the Death card in tarot. Not actual death, but transformation. The kind that makes room for the new things and new beginnings. In paganism, 13 is sacred to the feminine divine as there are 13 lunar cycles in a year, so contrary to what we’ve all been led to believe, this is actually a very powerful, sacred day!
Friday’s the perfect day to light a candle, do some shadow work, and stop being scared of your own magic. Journal Prompt: What are you ready to let die so something better can be born?
🐟 Pisces Stellium (+ we’re still in Mercury Retrograde)
Meaning Mercury, Mars, the North Node, the Sun, and the Moon are all hanging out in Pisces. That’s a LOT of water energy, so you’re probably feeling more emotional, psychic, and confused than usual AND all at the same time.
Whatever keeps resurfacing right now is resurfacing because it involves your destiny. North Node energy means the universe is redirecting you.
🌙 On Tuesday, March 18th we have a New Moon in Pisces
This moon isn’t asking you to hustle harder, it’s asking you to release any emotional weight that’s been dragging you down. The New Moon in Pisces is urging us to get in touch with our feelings, not just our goals and accomplishments. It doesn’t care about your to-do list, it cares about how you’re actually doing.
Set intentions around how you want to feel and let your nervous system be the compass.
💫 This is your time to be like water and go with the flow. Whatever’s coming up for you this week isn’t random, it a redirect!
*If you haven’t already, do your taxes! According to my favorite astrologer @radler.tv Mercury Retrograde is the perfect time to look over your finances!
🪄 Alchemize the Energy: Future Self Visualization Ritual
The biggest obstacle to transformation isn’t the work — it’s not being able to see who you’re becoming. When you can feel them, know them, and embody them, the universe can actually meet you there.
This ritual will introduce you to your future self — the version of you who has fallen back in love with themselves. What do they feel like? How do they move through the world? What did they have to let go of to get there?1
You’ll need:
1-2 essential oils from this list of New Moon oils, perfect for grounding and opening your intuition: Sandalwood, Frankincense, Myrrh, or Bergamot
A New Moon crystal: Clear quartz, Labradorite, or Black moonstone
A candle
Pen and paper
20-30 minutes of uninterrupted quiet
Step 1: Light your candle and place your crystal in front of you. This signals to yourself that you’re stepping out of the noise and into your own energy.
Step 2: Place a drop or two of your chosen oil in your palms, rub them together, and cup them over your nose. Take three slow, deep breaths to let your body know it’s safe to slow down.
Step 3: Close your eyes and meditate. Imagine yourself five years from now and how you will/would feel. Notice everything about this future version of you. Where are you? How do you carry yourself? What have you released or claimed? How do people treat you? How do you treat yourself? etc.
Step 4: When you’re ready, open your eyes and write down everything you can remember. Don’t edit or make it pretty, just get it out on paper.
Step 5: From what you wrote, pull out one intention (not a goal, a feeling ) that you’re calling into this lunar cycle. Then write it down as if it’s already true.
This is your New Moon to plant something real!
🫶 Client Corner
I do a ritual before all of my client sessions and yesterday something unusual happened. The smoke from the incense I’d lit, suddenly changed directions. Instead of billowing up to the ceiling like it normally does, it flattened and came towards me + my client. I’ve never seen that happen before, so of course I had to look it up: indicates that the intention was being received, bringing in positive energy, or answering a prayer. WILD.
“There is vitality, a life, force, and energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there’s only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium, and it will be lost.” - Martha Graham 🤍
💁♀️ Story Time:
You know what’s crazy? The amount of times you hear a woman say the word fine. I’m fine. It’s fine. Fine, fine, fine. And it’s never a cheerful fine. Regardless of who’s saying it, it always comes out in a curt, monotone delivery. Fine. Four letters that your nervous system trained you to say before your mouth even asked your heart.
fine | /fīn/ | adjective
of high quality.
(of a person) worthy of or eliciting admiration.
reasonably good; satisfactory.
used to express one’s agreement with or acquiescence to something.
in good health and feeling well.
of imposing and dignified appearance or size.
(of speech or writing) sounding impressive and grand but ultimately insincere.
denoting or displaying a state of good, though not excellent, preservation in stamps, books, coins, etc.
As women, deprioritizing our own feelings is so normalized we don’t even notice we’re doing it. ‘I’m fine’ isn’t just passive aggressive—it’s proof of how deep that conditioning runs. Even now I can hear my mother saying it to my father, to her mother, to me—in a tone that made it perfectly clear just how un-fine she really was, while making it equally clear that the conversation was over.
How many times have you actually said ‘I’m fine’ when no part of you was fine? Sometimes it felt safer. Sometimes it didn’t feel worth it. And sometimes you were quietly testing them, waiting to see if they’d give a shit enough to dig deeper. And if they didn’t, you were left sitting with whatever you were feeling before, plus the sting of knowing they couldn’t be bothered
Or the ‘I’m fine’ you said, didn’t mean, and immediately regretted. Because each time you say it, a little resentment starts to build. And after a while, that resentment quietly takes over and starts clouding your judgment.
But it’s not your fault. Society has never given us permission, or the right tools, to show up and communicate authentically. The expectation has always been that we should be something else, something perfect. But perfection isn’t real. There’s no perfect person, just a very convincing illusion of one (don’t even get me started on this topic).
per·fec·tion | /pərˈfekSHən/ | noun
the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.
Saying ‘I’m fine’ when you’re not is your nervous system choosing appeasement over authenticity in real time. Because you’re literally overriding your own truth to keep another person comfortable. That is dysregulation. That is your body scanning a situation and deciding that expressing how you actually feel is not safe. So it shuts you down before you even get the chance.
You can read all the self help books, repeat the affirmations, and do the journal prompts, but nothing’s going to shift until your body feels safe. Until your body knows it is enough. And the only way to reconfigure that old programming is through the nervous system.
Right now I’m thinking about all the guys I said ‘I’m fine’ to and I’m shaking my head. I agreed to so many things I never wanted to do, because I didn’t feel like I was allowed or worthy enough to say no. I didn’t feel like I had a voice. I didn’t think the people I was with were going to respect me, let alone the things that I actually needed or wanted.
So I choose discomfort over embarrassment. I choose possible judgment over my own happiness. I choose to comply and do what I told, “like a good girl”, because I was so ashamed of who i was, that it felt safer to pretend I was cool with whatever was going on, even at my own expense.
It’s so fucked up. And I know I’m not alone. I’m sure you’ve swallowed your fair share of “I’m fines” too.
Every ‘I’m fine’ you’ve ever said has trained your nervous system to distrust itself. Giving permission to override your needs, shrink who you are, and comply with the desires of someone else. It keeps us in a state of disconnection and distrust with self.
That’s why I’m pushing self love so hard. We owe it to ourselves to show up in a way that’s loving and authentic to who we are. We deserve to be the main characters in our own lives. We deserve to be happy. We deserve to have all our wants, needs, and desires met. And if people don’t respect that, then fuck ‘em, you’re better off alone.
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Drop your "I'm fine" moment in the comments. I want to hear it!
🔮 Oracle Insights:
What your soul wants you to know: Karmic Relationships
Orion is a constellation of polarity and unity. Some believe Starseeds from this lineage are incarnated on Earth, replaying karmic relationship patterns. You may be one of them. Polarity creates conflict, yet conflict also offers growth and deeper connection. When we soften our hearts, acknowledge our wounds, and seek understanding, we find common ground. We are all longing to be seen and understood. How can you release defensiveness, see the innocence in others, and choose connection over separation?
The action you’re being guided to take: I Remember
Before you were born, you chose this. You plotted out these exact moments along the timeline of your life — and now you're standing in one of them. We live in a world of free will, so destiny only happens when you say yes. The fated life is the one you were born into. The destiny life is the one your soul chooses — and it takes courage and faith. If something is calling you right now, whether it's a career shift, a relationship, a decision that scares you, that's not a coincidence. You're being invited to remember your soul's greater plan and surrender to it. The doubt you're feeling? That's not a sign to stop. That's a sign you're exactly where you're supposed to be. Every hero's journey comes with doubt. The only way around it is through it.
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Anderson, Lorraine. The Moon Apothecary. Summerhill, Australia: Rockpool Publishing, 2024, 61.