Never Dim Your Light For Anyone

...least of all yourself! Feat: Colors of the Day, Energy Updates, Recommendations, & What Happens When Perspective Heals Your Emotions.

Sep 11, 2025

Here’s what you’ll find in today’s mix of magic + musings:⚡️ Energetic Color of the Day Chart, 🌕 Week of Sept 15th Energy Update, 💁‍♀️ a Peek inside Christina’s World, & 💕What I’m loving right now

⚡️ Energetic Color of the Day:

Not sure what to wear? Consider matching your outfits to the corresponding energy of the day!

Week of Sept 15th Energy Update:

🌝 This week the moon moves through Aries, Taurus, and Gemini, On Monday you may feel emotional urgency, followed by comfort and grounding on Wednesday, then expression and mental clarity on Friday.

Monday is the perfect day to begin something, especially if it forces you to be brave. On Wednesday spend time focusing inward on loving and caring for yourself. Friday your mind will be sharp, this is a great day for ideating or writing.

♀ Venus in Leo which makes it bold, expressive, and passionate, with cravings of authenticity (in your romantic relationships), expression of self, and impulsive financial decisions.

Don’t be surprised if you feel restless in a stale relationship. You may find yourself wanting to break free of old stories about yourself, while simultaneously turning to splurging on something extravagant to feel more alive.

☿ Mercury is fully out of retrograde and at home it’s sign of Virgo. We’re moving through waning energy with a solar eclipse on the 21st, so buckle up as things might get rocky.

It’s a good idea to slow down as we approach the eclipse and be mindful of your communication. While it may be difficult, try to trust the uncertainty of this eclipse and trust that you’re being moved in the right direction, towards your goals.

💫This is your time to realign, finish the to-do list, use your voice to speak your desires into existence, and return to self!

Need help? Try this: Visualize yourself standing in an enchanted, sacred forest. Around you are 4 massive Redwood trees, each pulsing with calming, healing energy. These tress symbolize your heart, body, mind, and soul.

As you approach each tree, imagine releasing a negative emotions (that correlates with each of these areas), into the ground. Trusting the Earth to recycle these dense emotions into something much more aligned with your desired future version of you.

Then affirm: “With love and gratitude, I relinquish these emotions to the Earth. I know and trust these energies will be recycled to serve my highest and best good. I am safe, I am worthy, and I am whole. And so it is.”

Personal Update:

As a young girl I was taught to look and act a certain way. I felt like I was under constant scrutiny as a child. Everything I was, said, or did felt wrong. Like I was a disappointment. The pressure to be perfect was insurmountable. I kept trying to be this person I wasn’t. In my strives for perfection, I tried to push more and more of my true self to the side. But that’s the thing about essence, it can’t be suppressed.

es·sence /ˈes(ə)ns/ noun
the intrinsic nature or indispensable quality of something, especially something abstract, that determines its character.

As a naturally happy person, you probably wouldn’t know that inside I hated myself. When I think back to my feelings and emotions as a teen, it’s what I remember the most. It felt like I was always being told:

I didn’t apply myself enough. I could have tried harder. I didn’t pay enough attention. I moved too fast. I was too rough. I didn’t carry myself like a young lady. I was too loud. I was too bossy. I wasn’t worried enough about other people. I was too chubby. I was too messy. I was too disorganized. I didn’t put enough energy into my appearance. I lacked drive and was never going to be an athlete. That I was too much for people. That people weren’t going to like me for me, if I continued on this way.

But maybe I was just too much for my family. I’m sure if you asked my mother she would agree that I was A LOT. ‘Bull in a China Store’ is a core descriptor I remember being used to describe my um, gracefulness. If here now, she would probably correct my memory and remind me of all the positive traits, like my confidence and ability to connect with anyone. How I was creative and nurturing, even as a young child. How I was always smiling and constantly laughing.

So why is it that the bad outweighs the good in my memory? Maybe it’s a lack of self-acceptance. I wanted the approval of my mother so bad. For years I wished my mom would accept me for who I was. That she would fully embrace the barefoot, extravagant, wild child she had and lean into all of my uniqueness.

My friend Stephanie is great at this. She allows her daughter to be whoever it is she wants to be. The outfits, the costumes, the full expression of self. Her daughter has the freedom to be just who she is. Stephanie encourages all the magic and play that goes along with being a child who's trying to find themself. And ya know what the result is? MF Confidence. This kid is the most confident, self-assured child I have ever met. And she has this beautiful personality to back it up.

Old Christina would have held a grudge against her mom for not giving her a chance to express herself the way my friend’s daughter can. I’m sure old Christina would like to be angry that she had to play (and fail at being) perfect for all the friends and family in her life. Having to suppress her emotions, thoughts, and feelings, to show up in perfection for others.

But present moment Christina has a softer view. If every generation does a little better than the previous, then I can’t help but wonder what was my mom’s childhood must have been like if she felt she couldn’t let this little expression of who she is, be her true self. We are all aspects of our parents, and while our personalities, characteristics, and mannerisms may not be exactly the same, we are rooted in the same genetics. I can only surmise that my sweet mother must have also felt less than as a child.

What if instead of looking for answers on how to tame her ‘strong willed’ daughter, she leaned in? What if she had been given permission in her life, to be whoever it was that she felt like being? What if she was told as a child: you’re perfect in every way?

Society (and probably my grandmother) dictated unnecessary stresses onto my mother. Causing her to worry about things that didn’t matter, which in turn caused me to spiral as a young adult. But it’s all as it should be. My mother has played an integral part in my life and she’s made me the woman I am today. It’s hard to undo all the conditioning we’ve experienced as a child, but it’s not impossible. It’s been a vital lesson in looking inward for love, acceptance, and happiness.

We cannot expect other people to love us, the way we want to be loved, especially when they haven’t been given permission or grace to understand how they want to be loved! How can you be properly loved, if you’re unsure of what that even looks like?

Again I went to the oracle cards for wisdom and what I pulled reaffirms exactly what I needed to hear:

Starseed Oracle - Card #1. Soul Whisperer: What your soul wants you to know. Card #2. Grounded Action: The action your soul is guiding you to take.

What your soul wants you to know: Your soul came to Earth with a double mission: to grow as a soul and to bring about a shift in consciousness. You're being called to remember that your soul intelligently chose the perfect conditions to carry out your soul's mission and to share your soul's gift.

The action you’re being guided to take: The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, just won't like you. But it's also filled with those who'll love you fiercely. You're not for everyone, and that's okay. Don't waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince others of your value - they won't ever want what you're selling. You're not for them and they're not for you; politely wave them on and continue on your way.

I’ve made a promise to myself. NEVER again will I dim my light 🌞