Healing Isn't Always Pretty But the Glow Up Is

03.26 Weekly Drop ✨

Mar 26, 2026

In today’s mix of magic + musings: Upcoming ⚡️ Energy Update + 🪄 a spell to help alchemize. Followed by 🫶 Overheard in Session, 💁‍♀️ Story Time from me, 🔮 Oracle Insights from the heavens, 💕things I’m loving right now.

⚡️ Week of March 26 Energy Update:

💕 Venus Conjunct Chiron Thursday, March 26

Today Venus is meeting Chiron in Aries, making this a potent day for healing in relationships and connections of all kinds. Chiron is the wounded healer, and today his energy is creating a safe container for whatever old relationship pain you have been quietly holding onto

What old relationship pain are you still carrying that you no longer need?

🪐 Saturn Sextile Pluto on Saturday, March 28

On Saturday, Saturn in Aries forms a sextile to Pluto in Aquarius. Saturn is structure and long-term vision and Pluto is deep transformation. Think of a sextile an opportunity aspect — it’s available to you but you have to reach for it.

Saturday is a powerful day to get serious about something that actually matters to you. So make a plan and commit to it.

🌕 Full Moon in Libra on Wednesday, April 1

This week we are building toward something big. The Full Moon lands in Libra on April 1st and the universe is not playing games with that date. Libra rules relationships, reciprocity, and balance — so whatever has been one-sided, unfair, or out of alignment in your life is coming up for a long overdue look.

Use this week to reflect before the Full Moon peaks. Consider what needs to be released and what needs to come back into balance?

💫This is your time to get honest about what is out of balance, heal what is ready to be healed, and build something that actually lasts.

🪄 Alchemize the Energy: Full Moon Spray for Clarity

There are a few ingredients at the moon more than Jasmine, lemon, and rose, and they just happen to be a fragrance combination. Frankincense is also a great moon choice that adds a bit of depth and complexity to otherwise simple blend.

4 oz or 120 ml distilled water (to make Moon Water)
25 drops of jasmine absolute essential oil
50 drops of lemon essential oil
A couple drops of frankincense essential oil
1 teaspoon rose tincture, or rosewater

First you must make Moon Water. Fill a clear spray bottle with 4 oz or 120 ml of distilled water. We use distilled water to ensure it’s free from impurities and won’t mold or get funky over time. Then place the water in the moonlight for several hours or overnight, allowing it to absorb the moon's energy and carry its spiritual properties.

The next day add all of the remaining ingredients. Allow the formula to synergize for at least one day, then shake well before each use and spray as desired. The spray will stay fresh for up to one year, just be sure to keep out of direct sunlight while storing.1

🫶 Overheard in Session

This week one of my client's dogs came through with a message: let go of the guilt and the pain. This sweet animal wanted her to put down the regret and let it dissolve, because wrapped up in those emotions was a life lesson that had already been learned and was ready to be released. As humans we can be so hard on ourselves, holding ourselves to impossibly high expectations and replaying every moment we think we got wrong. What we actually need is compassion for ourselves. We did the best we could. It's literally all anyone asks of us. ISN’T THAT SWEET!

“I have no special talent. I’m only passionately curious.” — Albert Einstein 🤍

💁‍♀️ Story Time:

I hate to admit this, but I’ve been holding onto a lot of trauma from my last serious relationship. I thought I was just sad and confused about it being over—grieving the loss of something real. what I see so clearly now is that I was in an aggressive cycle of trauma and extreme manipulation. My weaknesses and insecurities were laid out on a table in front of me, while I tried to make sense of madness I was living in. There were so many lies. So much deceit.

I remember one specific night when he told me that, “maybe if I’d cared more, I could have saved my dad’s life.” Monster. This man was, I mean IS, an actual monster.

I have to get credit where credit’s due. My friends were right. He was a bad man and I should have left sooner. It’s just, when you’re in the middle of it, you don’t know how to get out. And it’s not from a lack of trying. It’s not like I wanted to be there. I had tried to get out so many times, but he just kept twisting everything back on me. Coercing me. Cpnvincing me that I was wrong. He made me believe that I was the problem. He used my kindness and understanding against me.

The whole time, he knew I wouldn’t tell anyone shit. I honestly don’t know how he did it! That’s a lie, I know how he did it. He moved slowly, came on fast and hard in the beginning, and was the epitome of perfection. And then, after the love bombing (which I pretended not to hear), the attention, the affection, and revolving door of lavish gifts, he ever so slightly started to change. Talk about playing the long game.

But this isn’t about that insecure, pathetic POS. It’s about ME.

POS \ (ˌpē-ˌō-ˈes) \ noun
A derogatory slang term and acronym for “piece of shit.” It is used to describe an object, person, or situation that is considered to be of extremely poor quality, completely dysfunctional, or morally contemptible.

After that relationship ended I was broken! Shattered into a million little pieces. Fearful that I would never be able recover. What I realize now is that I wasn’t grieving from the relationship—I was recovering from the trauma. I didn’t feel comfortable telling anyone about the true extent of my abuser’s behavior, and since he’d cornered me into burning SO MANY bridges, I didn’t think I could tell, anyone, except a select few (Kristin + Gretchen ILYSM!).

I cried and I cried and I cried. Until one day I didn’t. It was the day the light came back to my eyes. I turned all my focus inward and got back to healing. It’s like I’d almost forgotten about the one thing that could and would fix all of this!

My aura started to radiate out farther than it had in years and I felt happy. Genuinely happy. There’s no better feeling than be happy. Well, maybe being in love. But true happiness—the kind that pours out of you from the depths of your soul, not because of the influence of other people or things, but true innate happiness—I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

It’s the moment when you stop bracing. For me it was like I stopped living with low grade dread and started feeling calm again. I was sleeping restfully and I dropped a few pounds naturally, it just fell off me (my body holds onto weight when I’m stressed). Even my immune system improved.

In that relationship I was sick ALL the time. I even told him once, '“YOU’RE make me sick!” He was flabbergasted. How could he, this upstanding citizen, this ‘good person’, possibly be making me sick? I wish I could run him over with my car.

flabbergasted | /ˈflabərˌɡastəd/ | adjective
greatly surprised or astonished.

One of the things I didn't realize I was doing, until much later, was saying yes again. Yes to going out, yes to seeing friends, yes to repairing relationships (I have the most wonderful, loving friends). I fucking sparkled and nothing could stop me.

The best part of being happy is that you easily slide into receiving mode. You just get things. You become a magnet for everything you want as magic and miracles shower down on you. Which inevitably makes you happier. Then another wave of fulfilled manifestations shows up on your door and the cycle continues.

I share all of this not because I want sympathy—that’s honest to God the last thing I EVER WANT. I share it in hopes of helping others. Other men and women who feel stuck in bad relationships and are confused as to how to get out. You can do it. It’s going to take a little work and potentially a lot of effort, but you can do it. You just have to believe in yourself. You have to love yourself more than anything else. You have to be your own driving force, because no one can truly break ties but you.

Cheers to being the main character in your own life! 🤍

If this resonated with you, tap the ❤️ so more people can find this message. And share in the comments, what cycle you’re ready to break?

🔮 Oracle Insights:

You have been waiting to feel safe before you start moving — and this is your sign that the safety comes from the moving. Somewhere along the way, trust got broken, and you pulled back. Decided it was easier to go it alone than to risk being let down again. That pattern is being called out right now.

You are more protected and supported than you currently believe, by the people in your life and by forces you cannot even see yet. So soften. Let that support in. And then take one small step in the direction your soul has been whispering about. Not a giant leap. Just one faithful, grounded move. Consistency over urgency. Trust over fear. You don’t need to see the whole path — you just need to take the next step.